Sex is meant to
be a thing of consent and there shouldn’t be a wrong reason to engage in it.
but this is not the case sometimes some people have sex other than the reason
to feel happy and sexual satisfaction with their partners which is totally wrong. Let’s
identify some wrong reasons people have sex:
I felt like I owed the person
Have you ever
felt like this before? Probably the person might have helped you with the
year’s rent, paid off your college debt, bought you that exotic house, or
probably have taken you out to the loveliest dinner outing and you felt the
best way to show appreciation is to give them intense orgasm. That’s a wrong reason to
have sex. There are other ways to show appreciation, and most times a big
smile, hug and thank you will be enough. Sex is meant for those who really want
it as much as the other party does.
I wanted to have something to tell my friends
Call it peer
pressure, but this pressure does not only involve teenagers. Some adults still
feel that way especially if they are celibate or they’ve not gotten good loving
in a long time. That stare they get from their friends when they hear sex has
not been on the priority list for a long time might make them jump into bed
with any stranger that is willing to do so. And the aftermath psychological
effect could be depression and low self-esteem. Protect yourself and avoid
getting into such situation.
I was under the influence of drugs
This is a
terrible reason to have sex. When you are under the influence, it could make it
all dangerous because you probably wouldn’t know who you are having sex with or
if you are having safe sex and this could lead to sexually transmitted infections and sexually transmitted diseases. Taking drugs
is bad and could put your life at risk; having unsafe sex is bad for sexual health.
I was coerced into it
This could be a
scenario where you make the biggest mistake of your life to crash with a friend
or colleague purely because you wanted to hang out with them; but then, hanging
out turns to a long session of a plea for sex. You try and resist for a few
hours, but when you realize you are not going to get a good night sleep, you
give in for the sake of peace. Or, you just got into that new relationship, and
it is not up to a week before the new guy or girl in your life starts pestering
you for sex and you give in because you do not want to lose the relationship.
Walking away would have been the best option in both scenarios. People should
not coerce you into doing what you don’t want.
I was physically forced into it
This is in all
shades of rape! If you’ve ever had such encounter, ensure that you report to
the appropriate authorities. You should not feel ashamed to do so. To avoid getting
yourself in this situation, be very observant of your environment, try not to
get too close or comfortable to someone you have no feelings for. And, always
have your pepper spray in your purse.
