"I'm tired.", "I have
a headache.", "There are too many other things to do.", Sound
familiar? They're all common excuses people give to avoid having sex. But like
proper nutrition and getting enough exercise, engaging in regular lovemaking
with your partner is an important and vital part of one's overall health.
Spice it up
Research has shown that monotony and
repeating the same roles and styles all the time is a real killer to sexual
drive. Both women and men should avoid being monotonous in their daily bedroom
affairs. In other words, stop being the mum who cleans and cooks every day, or
the office dad who carries office homework to your house every night. Instead,
try to spice you behaviours once in a while.
For instance, if you are a woman,
you can try taking control in bed every once in a while. Surprise him with lacy
lingerie and some erotic makeup. If you are a man, kill the pattern too.
A good recommendation is that don't
plan for sex. Let it come impromptu. Couples who always plan that Wednesday or
Friday is the D-Day, have a higher chance of killing the sex drive in their
relationship. Break the cycle and spice up your sexual relationship.
Have a Scent
The human brain is programmed to
work like a computer. It associates certain inputs to certain activities. Ever
noticed how auto-correct works on your phone? Your brain works similarly. If
certain words are typed on your messenger, the phone can know what is likely to
be the next word in the line.
In a sexual context, when a man or a
woman wears a certain kind of perfume all the time, their partner tends to
associate that perfume scent to their partner. A study in America has proven
that men are turned on by pumpkin pie and lavender scents when their women are cooking.
Again, a Men's Journal in Canada, after surveying 100 married men, found out
that scent has a considerable impact on libido.
Some men and women have also
confirmed that they tend to get sexually active when their partners are wearing
a certain kind of perfume. Sticking to a particular perfume allows time for
your partner to associate a unique scent with your presence, and hopefully next
time they smell that perfume at the bus station on their way home, they might
come running straight into the act.
Have your own Game
Couple games are perhaps the best
part about dating. Being able to telepathically communicate and understand
jokes by just looking at each other, even when everybody else in the room seems
confused, is just golden. To boost your sex drive, marriage experts recommend
having a small game to delay the action and keep things exciting in the
bedroom. It's all about testing the waters, building anticipation, and
erotically charging the mind.
Communication
Almost every relationship problem can
be solved through communication. The worst heartbreaks ever shared often have
one thing in common - lack of communication. Men are usually very reluctant to
hear from their women where they are doing it wrong. Discussing your sex life
will pull more engagement into the act and ensure sexual satisfaction for both
of you.
Communicate with you woman, know
what turns her on. If you are a woman, faking orgasms is never the answer. You do want to feel the intense orgasm during sex right?
