Sunday, June 17, 2018

Five wrong reasons to have sex

Sex is meant to be a thing of consent and there shouldn’t be a wrong reason to engage in it. but this is not the case sometimes some people have sex other than the reason to feel happy and sexual satisfaction with their partners which is totally wrong. Let’s identify some wrong reasons people have sex:

I felt like I owed the person
Have you ever felt like this before? Probably the person might have helped you with the year’s rent, paid off your college debt, bought you that exotic house, or probably have taken you out to the loveliest dinner outing and you felt the best way to show appreciation is to give them intense orgasm. That’s a wrong reason to have sex. There are other ways to show appreciation, and most times a big smile, hug and thank you will be enough. Sex is meant for those who really want it as much as the other party does.

I wanted to have something to tell my friends
Call it peer pressure, but this pressure does not only involve teenagers. Some adults still feel that way especially if they are celibate or they’ve not gotten good loving in a long time. That stare they get from their friends when they hear sex has not been on the priority list for a long time might make them jump into bed with any stranger that is willing to do so. And the aftermath psychological effect could be depression and low self-esteem. Protect yourself and avoid getting into such situation.

I was under the influence of drugs
This is a terrible reason to have sex. When you are under the influence, it could make it all dangerous because you probably wouldn’t know who you are having sex with or if you are having safe sex and this could lead to sexually transmitted infections and sexually transmitted diseases. Taking drugs is bad and could put your life at risk; having unsafe sex is bad for sexual health.

I was coerced into it
This could be a scenario where you make the biggest mistake of your life to crash with a friend or colleague purely because you wanted to hang out with them; but then, hanging out turns to a long session of a plea for sex. You try and resist for a few hours, but when you realize you are not going to get a good night sleep, you give in for the sake of peace. Or, you just got into that new relationship, and it is not up to a week before the new guy or girl in your life starts pestering you for sex and you give in because you do not want to lose the relationship. Walking away would have been the best option in both scenarios. People should not coerce you into doing what you don’t want.

I was physically forced into it
This is in all shades of rape! If you’ve ever had such encounter, ensure that you report to the appropriate authorities. You should not feel ashamed to do so. To avoid getting yourself in this situation, be very observant of your environment, try not to get too close or comfortable to someone you have no feelings for. And, always have your pepper spray in your purse.

Thursday, May 31, 2018

4 Things That Will Repair a Dying Sex Drive

"I'm tired.", "I have a headache.", "There are too many other things to do.", Sound familiar? They're all common excuses people give to avoid having sex. But like proper nutrition and getting enough exercise, engaging in regular lovemaking with your partner is an important and vital part of one's overall health.

Spice it up
Research has shown that monotony and repeating the same roles and styles all the time is a real killer to sexual drive. Both women and men should avoid being monotonous in their daily bedroom affairs. In other words, stop being the mum who cleans and cooks every day, or the office dad who carries office homework to your house every night. Instead, try to spice you behaviours once in a while.
For instance, if you are a woman, you can try taking control in bed every once in a while. Surprise him with lacy lingerie and some erotic makeup. If you are a man, kill the pattern too.

A good recommendation is that don't plan for sex. Let it come impromptu. Couples who always plan that Wednesday or Friday is the D-Day, have a higher chance of killing the sex drive in their relationship. Break the cycle and spice up your sexual relationship.

Have a Scent
The human brain is programmed to work like a computer. It associates certain inputs to certain activities. Ever noticed how auto-correct works on your phone? Your brain works similarly. If certain words are typed on your messenger, the phone can know what is likely to be the next word in the line.

In a sexual context, when a man or a woman wears a certain kind of perfume all the time, their partner tends to associate that perfume scent to their partner. A study in America has proven that men are turned on by pumpkin pie and lavender scents when their women are cooking. Again, a Men's Journal in Canada, after surveying 100 married men, found out that scent has a considerable impact on libido.

Some men and women have also confirmed that they tend to get sexually active when their partners are wearing a certain kind of perfume. Sticking to a particular perfume allows time for your partner to associate a unique scent with your presence, and hopefully next time they smell that perfume at the bus station on their way home, they might come running straight into the act.

Have your own Game
Couple games are perhaps the best part about dating. Being able to telepathically communicate and understand jokes by just looking at each other, even when everybody else in the room seems confused, is just golden. To boost your sex drive, marriage experts recommend having a small game to delay the action and keep things exciting in the bedroom. It's all about testing the waters, building anticipation, and erotically charging the mind.

Almost every relationship problem can be solved through communication. The worst heartbreaks ever shared often have one thing in common - lack of communication. Men are usually very reluctant to hear from their women where they are doing it wrong. Discussing your sex life will pull more engagement into the act and ensure sexual satisfaction for both of you.

Communicate with you woman, know what turns her on. If you are a woman, faking orgasms is never the answer. You do want to feel the intense orgasm during sex right?

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Bent Penis: The Best Sex Positions

The functionality of the penis is a big deal to most guys, which is one reason why possessing a bent penis can be a source of legitimate concern for many men. This can be especially true when it comes to how a bent penis may potentially alter the mechanics involved in intercourse. While practicing proper penis care is always advised to help with many common matters, in this instance an exploration of appropriate sex positions may prove especially helpful.

How bent?
It's important to realize that some curvature of the penis is normal. True, there are some men who possess a member which is totally straight when erect; however, it also is quite common for there to be some leaning to the left or right, or up or down. So curvature itself is not sexual problems or affect your penis health; an issue arises only when the curvature presents to a degree that can potentially impede the penis' proper placement during sexual activities.

When the bend is potentially problematic, it may mean that adjustments need to be made to find the best sex positions. The following are some of the sex positions which may be more accommodating to a bent penis.

1) Sideways missionary. This position often works when a man's penis curves to the side (either left or right). It's a "mixed use" position, with the woman lying on her side, knees bent and the man lying atop her in the traditional missionary position. (The side that the woman lies on will depend on which way the penis curves). By essentially creating a situation in which the participants are at a 90 degree angle, this position helps to compensate for the bend to the side of the manhood.

2) Doggy style. If the bent penis curves in a downward slope, rear-entry positions tend to be ideal. Again, this allows the curvature of the penis to more naturally follow the vaginal lay. It also allows the male greater freedom to re-position himself - in some cases, literally keeping him on his toes - to change the angle of thrust as needed.

3) Sitting straddle. For men with an upward curvature, a woman-on-top position can be very helpful. One of the best involves the male sitting, possibly leaning back a bit and bracing himself with his hands or elbows. The woman straddles the male and lowers herself onto the penis, using her hands to guide the member as needed. This position can also be beneficial for penises that curve downward. With a downward-plunging member, the woman again sits atop the man, but faces away from him.

4) Standing straddle. As the name implies, this is similar to the sitting straddle - except the man is standing rather than sitting. It's another position that works best for an upward-curved penis, although some limber women have found that they can better accommodate a left- or right-leaning penis in this position as well.

Finding the right fit
Most men with a bent penis find the sex positions that work best for them with only a little experimenting. Sometimes, however, the penis can become more bent over time, often a result of rough sex, in which aggressive action causes small traumas which create scar tissue when they heal. Sometimes this tissue causes the penis to bend.

While finding good sex positions for a bent penis is an excellent idea, so is working to prevent scar tissue from adding to the degree of curvature.