Ways to Have Better Sex Life in Marriage

Sex is one of the essential things of any successful relationship, so you always need to find ways to improve your sexual life in order to live happier and healthy life. It is not uncommon for many couples to lose some interest in each other, especially if they have been married for a long time, but there are many things you can do to avoid that. Keeping the intimacy and closeness at the highest level is crucial if you want your marriage to be successful.

            One very basic thing which you can do to improve the sex life in your marriage is to experiment with some new sex positions. This is a great way to get aroused and to enhance yours and your partner`s sexual pleasure. If you have been having sex in the same position for a long time now, then it is a good time to change something. You will see that a simple change in position will make you both feel a lot better. Different sex position always contribute towards better sex life, so take advantage of that. If you do not know what to try, you can check out some Kamasutra positions for inspiration and find something that you both like to try.

            Next very simple but often neglected way for improving sex in marriage is spending enough time on foreplay. Take some time to cuddle and play with each other before proceeding towards the sexual intercourse. The bigger the anticipation and arousal before the sex, the better the sex will be. Good sex foreplay is equally important to both women and men, so take it slow and do not rush things. Foreplay is an instant booster and both partners can benefit a lot from it.

            Another way to improve your sex life in marriage is to introduce some sex toys in your bedroom. Playing or watching your partner pleasuring with sex toys can be really arousing and can put you both in a great mood for sex. If the communication between partners is open and you have a good understanding with your partner, then sex toys will do wonders in your bedroom and will fire up your sparkle again.

            Follow these simple ways to improve your sex life in marriage. They will not only spice up your sex life but will also provide you with bigger pleasure and enjoyment. Remember that when your sex life starts to deteriorate, then your marriage will also start to suffer. The truth is that most of the married couples are struggling with intimacy problems at some point of their marriage. Sometimes they are too tired or too busy with many obligations which prevent them to regularly have sex. However, everything can be improved quite easily and you can quickly light up your passion again. Do not waste time and start exploring for ways to improve your sex life. Find out what is best for you and your partner and start transforming your sex life for the better.  

4 Most-Asked Questions About Sex

The mysteries and doubts about sex that plague the average man and woman run a wide-ranging gamut. But there are some that today's sex counselors hear more often than others. Here they are, along with the answers!

1. Is masturbation harmful?

This one, of course, tops the list. From acne to insanity, from impotence to memory loss - hardly any ailment in the medical encyclopedia has not been blamed on masturbation! Until the inception of the 20th century, even the physicians fell in line and prescribed "cures" ranging from leeches to suck out blood from the genitals, to "cages" in which children's penises could be padlocked by parents and the key thrown away.

This was in the West. In India, although the amorous ancients joyously documented their masturbatory postures for posterity - the temples of Halebid in Karnataka flaunt masturbating males among their erotic carvings - the majority of Indian youth is tortured by crippling fears about the effects of masturbation on body and mind.

The fact is that no minister or medico has ever provided a shred of evidence to suggest that masturbation is harmful. To the contrary, current opinion among enlightened sexologists is that masturbation is not only not harmful, but it may also be distinctly beneficial. To demolish the more common myths:

The penis has no muscles; hence there is no way that masturbation can lead to 'weaknesses.

Masturbation does not deplete the body's supply of semen, leading to a scarcity situation. Semen is produced every day - and it's produced to be used! As sexologist comments, "It is disuse, not use, that leads to atrophy."

Masturbation does not impair sexual intercourse or sexual pleasure. In fact, there is growing evidence that lack of masturbatory experience may lead to problems like impotence and anorgasmia (difficulty in experiencing intense orgasm). Masturbation is the ultimate source of sexual self-awareness and forms an important part of many sex therapy programs.

Sexologists, however, do caution that masturbation may indicate some other underlying problem if it is indulged in compulsively and to the exclusion of other sexual outlets even when available.

2. What can I do to increase the size of my penis?

That question is best answered by another: Why do you want to? Most men feel that they'd be Olympic performers in bed if only their penises were "a little" longer or a little broader... Although there are wide variations in the size of penises in the flaccid state, erection is said to be the great equalizer because penises that are small in the non-erect state enlarge proportionately more than penises that are longer or broader in the non-erect state. And of course, the size of the flaccid penis is irrelevant to sexual performance!

What's more, even during erection, not more than 5cm of penile length is necessary or for reproductive purposes. The outer one-third (i.e. about 5 cm) of the vagina has the most concentrated nerve ending, and this is the portion that is sensitive to the thrusting penis. As for reproduction, man only needs enough penis to be able to deliver the semen into the vagina - from there on, the sperm speed upward with a momentum of their own!

3. Is oral sex dirty and perverted?

Oral sex brings the tongue, lips, and mouth into play in the genital area, and in that sense brings an added dimension to sexual activity: all the senses are now involved. In those who are at ease with it, it can heighten arousal, providing the final surge of excitement leading to intercourse; it can even directly bring on orgasm.

But not everybody is comfortable with oral sex; guilt and awkwardness are felt even by several of those who indulge in it. One reason for considering it 'dirty' is that most people are conditioned to think of the genitals themselves are dirty. But, from a scientific point of view, oral sex is no more unhygienic than mouth to mouth kissing.

Some people are put off by the genital odors, or the genital secretions. But the secretions themselves are relatively clean, and the odors partly reflect the kind of foods that the person eats. And, a good bath before engaging in oral sex should ensure cleanliness.

Nobody has yet been able to come up with a valid reason why oral sex is dirty or unhealthy or perverted. The feeling persists among many, and the most worrying thing about oral sex is the worry it causes.

4. How can I make sex more satisfying?

Make sure you are with the right partner. Someone, you're comfortable with and care about. Emotions are an important part of the sexual experience.

Not over-tired or under stress. Both are poor starting points for good sex.

Not plagued by fears about sex itself. This mainly applies to women - and the fears range from the fear of pain to the fear of pregnancy. Inhibitions or anxiety are instant passion-poopers.

Ready to experiment and to innovate. Different positions, different places, even different roles (alternating between aggressor and passive partner) bring in the variety that puts the spice into sex.