Regardless
of what any social justice warrior may tell you – men and women are distinctive
creatures that have their own tastes and preferences. This is not to say that
there isn’t any overlap, but the fact of the matter is that, on average, both
many and women are unique in their own ways as representatives of the two
genders. Well, you might ask how does this relate to your sexual relationship? It relates
in a big way.
As a man,
in most cases, you will have to learn to lead. If there is one thing that
attracts women it’s if the man is a leader. And this can easily translate in
the bed. You need to do away with any notions that you may have about treating
the woman as a princess during this time. Of course, there is a subset of women
that may like this – but the vast majority of women want to feel masculine,
dominant energy when they are in bed with a man. It will be a bad sexual experience for her.
So, the
first rule of thumb is to never be hesitant as to what to do next while in bed.
The worst thing that you could do while you’re having sex is to ask questions.
Granted, this wouldn’t surprise us if it’s something that you think you should
do. The fact of the matter is that many men are actively demasculinized by
their upbringing and the society that forces them to treat women as beings on a
pedestal.
There is
nothing wrong with that, but again, it may cause problems in the bed. Long
story short – don’t ask the girl what she wants to do when you’re in bed. You
can have a constructive discussion afterwards or before – but not during it. If
you implement your logical, thinking mind in the equation of having sex then
you may very well have shot yourself in the knee. It will ruin the entire
atmosphere of the moment.
If you want
her to do something – don’t ask her to do it. Tell her to do it. You’d be
surprised to learn just how responsive women get to an unwavering command given
by a man while the two of you are having sex. It’s in the nature of most women
to respond to male dominance in a favorable way. This won’t make her dislike you
– in fact, it will make her even more
attracted to you and the act will increase the heat of the moment.
Feel free
to maneuver her in space (make sure, of course, that you don’t overdo this and
hurt the girl.) Most girls like getting their hair pulled by a man while having
sex. Some of them may enjoy being slapped in the butt. The most important thing
to do is to let yourself go and feel the moment. You will see that you know
exactly what to do while you’re at it. Just don’t overthink it – this is a
mistake. Feel it learn more along the way and it will improve your sexual life and sexual technique.
