Sex Games For Your Bedroom

When it comes to spicing things up in the bedroom, nothing beats the timeless magic of role playing. This enables people in a relationship to do things that they will not normally do. Behind the guise of another person, their inhibitions are completely stripped off; thus, leaving them to do exactly what they want to. There are other things that couples may do to spice up their sex life. Through different games and activities, routine intercourse could completely be avoided. However, most couples think that these games would only waste their time.

The following sex game ideas will surely change the way that you feel about sex games. Try them out for yourself and find out how they can add magic to your sex life.

Tasty Treats

Use food to satisfy your sexual hunger. Different types of food are usually available in your refrigerator. Be creative. Think of simple ways to use them in heightening your partner's sexual pleasure. Place dabs of whipped cream on strategic places on your partner's body. Take your time in licking every single drop of it off. The texture and the temperature of the whipped cream, along with the sensation of your lips and your tongue will drive your partner mad with pleasure. Go one step wilder and tie your partner's hands to the posts of the bed before you lick the whipped cream off. His lack of control over the situation will arouse him more than ever.

Be a Teenager Again

Remember how you couldn't get enough of each other when your relationship was just starting. Try to go back to that magical time by going on an all out make-out session. Kiss for the longest possible time. Try caressing different parts of your partner's body while kissing.

Wish List

Both of you should make a list of different sexual things that you want your partner to do to you. Place them on little pieces of paper and fold them. Take turns in picking a piece from the pile and acting out what is written. This game gets more fun as the game progresses. The different sexual favors will arouse both you and your partner's drive. This also gives you the chance to find out which sexual activity your partner loves. Remember what he wrote down and try them out again the next time that you spend quality time in the bedroom.

Make a Bet

Bet about anything, even frivolous things; but instead of forking over money, the loser should remove a piece of clothing. Make on bet after another. Whoever is left with no clothes on loses (or wins) the game.

Guess What

Tie a blindfold around your partner's eyes and make him lie on the bed. Rub some lubricant on different part of your body (like your fingers or the tip of your nose) and rub them gently on your partner's skin. Touch different places to increase his confusion. Ask him to guess what body part you are using to touch him. Remove the blindfold only when he makes the right guess.

3 Ways to Heal your Relationship from Criticism

John and Julie Gottman: Four Risk Factors

American researchers, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, have studied why some relationships are successful and why others are not. They monitored, interviewed and studied hundreds of couples for twenty years. By now, they are experts on the field: they can judge within five minutes, with about 90 percent accuracy, whether a couple will stay together or break up.

They have found four communication techniques that may lead to a breakup: criticism, contempt, defensive behavior and stonewalling.

According to John and Julie Gottman, it is acceptable if you complain about a particular issue to your partner. Constant criticism is different. It is about your partner’s character. It means that deep down you are dissatisfied with your partner. You do not like the person who they are. Why do you want a relationship with someone whom you dislike? If you are a criticizer, you always focus on the things you do not like about your partner. You think you are superior, you know better. You feel that you have the right to nag at your partner. He becomes defensive. Soon the two of you will have hostile feelings for each other. It has a negative effect on the relationship.

Moreover, constant criticism may lead to contempt. John and Julie Gottman say this is the worst of the four factors: once contempt appears in your relationship, you have little or no chance to stay with your partner for a long time. Your partner will sense that you have no respect and love for him. Instinct will tell him that you cannot understand him. As a result, he will not trust you. He will feel insecure and upset.

Stan Tatkin: Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy

Stan Tatkin, a clinical expert who did extensive research on relationships, has come up with a new method, psychobiological approach to couples therapy. According to him, you can fine-tune your brain to love or war, according to the signals you send to your brain. However, human brain is closer to war than love. Your mind is supposed to help you survive as an individual. You should make conscious efforts to change your mindset. According to Stan Tatkin, you should create a happy, safe atmosphere. Let your partner know that he can trust you when life gets rough. You should trust him and let him know. When you and your partner are together, both of you should feel secure and satisfied. When you despise your partner or criticize him, you hurt this atmosphere.

Sue Johnson: Emotionally Focused Therapy

Sue Johnson, a relationship therapist, has implemented another method, emotionally focused therapy. EFT can break the vicious cycle of criticism and defensive behavior. You should find the underlying reason behind the hurtful comments. Make sure that you are nice and understanding with your partner so that he dares to talk about his feelings.

For example, a man may criticize you because he thinks you ignore him. He wants to signal you that he wants more of you, this is why he is critical. Probably he could see the same behavior from his parents when he was a child. Once you understand this, you will be less defensive, you will be able to deal with his remarks, you will know how to react.